The following is a perspective that I’m exploring, based upon my own experience, and observations of the struggles of many men. I’m following an inspiration to open up about this… discussion is welcome.
The root challenge of a man, be it conscious or not, is that for the first time in known history he is unable to respond to an interfacing of “evil” in his life which is so overwhelming that it appears to be unconquerable by him. This is at the core of the debilitation of man in our present age.
In previous ages, that which was a threat to self, family and tribe was within the scope of being resolved, and men readily did so in the vast majority of instances.
But now, thanks to our internet, media and communications, we are chronically exposed to all evil and dark acts happening everywhere on the planet. The “matrix-controllers” — and our own proclivity to issue projections — are making sure of this.
This, compounded by the diminished physical embodiment / earth-connectedness of typical modern life… plus the increasing boldness of evildoers… overwhelms a man. And, often following his initial attempts and failures (or at least very limited success), this exposes his utter lack of potency to be the warrior-protector and sufficiently (in his view) deal with the threats, which are indeed real.
This is the perfect storm for a “great exposing agent” of trauma in a man’s life, and — seemingly mercilessly — brings the core mass of that which is unresolved within, unavoidably into his view.
While women also do indeed experience this dynamic, it is uniquely amplified in men due to our ancient and long-held role to be protectors and providers for life — in particular, for our women and children — combined with the overwhelming social engineering, conditioning and messaging that “the embodied masculine is now obsolete.”
This is an intentional and violent act of evil against men, carried out by a force who does not want life protected, but sees the minds and bodies of women, children and ourselves as colonizable fodder for its anti-life consciousness.
What beckons to be seen: If a man is unable to express a response to the evil that interfaces his life, to an extent he deems sufficient, two things will happen:
- his “not enough” story will be amplified; and
- he will begin to unconsciously internalize the very traits he feels powerless over.
This often leads to a dark night.
And this is when great courage is needed.
And thankfully, at this stage a man does often feel — and can tap into — a rise in the calling to honor in this way, and an increase in the ability to explore embodying his courage, yielding “small successes” here… which light the possibility of opening his heart once again.
However, the resistance to becoming and embodying on a constant basis, will typically be massive, and the journey arduous.
At this stage, a man can be tempted to give up, often experiencing a deep-rooted lack of motivation to meet the challenges set in front of him.
Some men here feel like half a soul, painfully bereft of his completeness — whether the lacking be perceived as internal, external, or both.
The Feminine: The Greatest Source of Purpose (and Challenge) to Awakening Man
Now, as the greatest source of purpose to awakening man is the feminine, this is the moment when
- a) a man is called to inner receptivity and embrace connection to feminine aspects within; and
- b) a woman in his life has the opportunity to quite literally be a goddess-agent of resurrection for him.
Note: (b) is a deep desire of a vast number of men, however (a) is a prerequisite for an authentic process to follow, since the greater process centers around reclaiming projections and power in order to remember wholeness / holiness of self. Also, a man can intend for (b), but if and when she appears is, thankfully, not under his control.
But if a woman is to come into a man’s life in this moment, an intention for a fun & healthy experience is not enough. She must, at all costs, resist and refuse the temptations to accept a role of power over this man. This requires her sensitivity, deep wisdom, and enacted desire to welcome her man into his being and power — something often not possible for a woman who is in deep process healing her own traumas (often caused by men), in which case the “welcoming” will often be said but not embodied, having the effect of confusing and gaslighting her man further.
However if she is a suitable candidate for this role, and accepts it, she will be empowered and bequeathed beyond all normal reality with the ability to embody her inner goddess, whose characteristics and graces will fully avail themselves to her.
I will pause here and offer a couple of distilled insights from my own journey. I’ve been single for 7 months now. And I’ve realized that I’ve been complicit in a limiting pattern.
Due to unhealed traumas of my own, I have attracted relationships with women who have been unable to welcome and support my deepest, masculine essence. This has been the case with my last two committed relationships.
Instead, because of the resonance of what I was being divinely-asked to work through, I was creating relationships which brought in deep trauma in the area of relating to the masculine. Thus, a codependent control dynamic was normalized and defended, even when called out, and I felt extremely stuck in that situation.
Another realization: If you are wondering, “Should I be with this person?” then you really need to ask yourself, “When I am in my full empowered, heart-centered presence, how are they with me?“ Are you being welcomed, or resisted? Some resistance is normal, but how big is the welcome (from their soul) compared to the resistance (from their fear / programs)?
If the welcome is not clearly greater, than you owe it to yourself to change that situation. You may then feel it’s appropriate to bring it up in conversation, and if you aren’t properly met (either in that moment or over a period of time that you determine), then you may have a difficult but necessary decision to make.
The greatest mistake I made was not listening to my soul, when I knew deep down the answer to the above question… but didn’t want to admit it — this is extra challenging when there are attractive qualities.
But because I didn’t act on my inner knowing, I then started feeling trapped. Then I pulled away, acting out of what I’d consider to be my optimal alignment. What’s interesting is that I was still — albeit unintentionally — following my inner knowing to end the relationship. But drama was unnecessarily created, and from one perspective, time was wasted. Maybe you can relate?
However, these recent months have been a time of self-compassion and returning to a place of okay-ness with myself, reconnection with my inner child, and recommunication with God. After much inner work and solo-journeying most of the past year, I am grateful for the clarity I now have on this.
Experiencing True Communion
When a man’s mind is clear enough, when he has experienced enough pain and disappointment, when he is ready and his soul is sufficiently in motion, then there can be true communion.
Whether it’s experienced predominantly as an inner reality shift, or the inner + outer in relationship with a suitable woman, this masculine-feminine harmonization is the moment we see the butterfly, on the sun-drenched flower, opening its wings.
The divine love of the feminine meets the masculine’s divine desire for life. Spirit and matter. Intention and manifestation. Electro and magnetic. All the levels.
And while there is (at times in this stage) great resistance, triggering, insecurity, and control mechanisms that arise, love holds her embrace which opens the way for the metamorphosis and resurrection of life.
Darkness now yields to purified light. Both experience this, with moments of illumined oneness.
Being reborn, a man’s path now opens to actualize his destiny; his servant-king role in the greater geometric meta-pattern of mankind’s life-emergent…. living with God and where He loves to live, on the leading-edge of life.
Thanks for reading. Feel free to leave a comment below. -JDSB
Header photo by Lukas Rychvalsky